I wanted to write this post because when I look online no one seems to feel the same way I have felt. Now either they don’t want to mention it or maybe I am the only one to feel this way.
Whatever the reason, this site is how I think and what I believe. So this article is basically about what I have felt and discovered within myself.
You’re never alone. But that doesn’t mean you won’t feel lonely from time to time.
In every hostel you go to there will be new faces new smiles and new stories. Some of my Favorite times have been checking in to a new dorm and just immediately clicking with my dorm mates. But there are always going to be moments when you check in and everyone’s already got their buddies or even worse, they’re arseholes (and you’d be surprised to how many go travelling) So there’s a moment when you feel alone. I’ve had that moment more than once! And that’s okay.
I am so proud of myself for doing this. And I would insist that everyone go travelling by themselves at least once. But for me, this will most likely be the last time I do this alone. I have discovered that I am a dependent person. My happiness is brought to me by the people who surround me. Like my family and loved ones and friends.
Now I have met some wonderful people in my travels, but then they’re gone. You go your separate ways and you have to do it all over again and meet more people and make more friends who you will then say goodbye to potentially the very next day. You go through it over and over again and I find it exhausting!
I go through the same conversations hundreds of times.
“Where are you from?”
“How long have you been travelling for?”
“Where have you been so far?”
And there is a moment when you would love to just be with someone for longer then two or three days. You’d love for someone to remember your name. Or have them ask how you’re feeling and genuinely want to know the answer and you be able to tell them without worrying about ‘bumming them out’. Not everyone will feel the same about this. But travelling alone and not having at least one person who actually knows me for longer than a couple of days has been the hardest part of my journey so far.
At the start, I felt almost like a failure. Like feeling lonely was taboo in the travelling world. I rejected the emotion. I ignored it and that only made it worse. When you’re feeling lonely- embrace it. It’s a natural emotion to have when you’re alone on the other side of the planet!
The more you reject something, the more it’ll eat away at you. A feeling as stubborn as that can really take its toll if you let it fester.
Here are some of my tips to help you get through your lonely fazes as I have.
1. Treat yourself.
Go and get a massage, foot rub, hair cut or a pedicure. Whatever that will make you feel good on the outside can sometimes help how you feel on the inside.
2. Make a travel buddy
This is a lot easier said than done. But be flexible and don’t stick to a strict schedule. If you meet someone you get along with, suggest the idea of travelling together for a while. Having a companion for longer than a few days can be a new or better experience where you are.
3. Watch your favourite TV series or read your Favorite book
There are times when just your Favorite book or the best to series can lift your mood up. Take the time out to make you feel more like you again.
4. Don’t spend time alone.
This is a no brainer. When you’re feeling lonely. Don’t curl up in your dorm room and feel sorry for yourself. Go out and meet new people. Make new friends, have a conversation.
5. Go on a little exploration of where you are.
There is always something to do. You just have to be willing to go and find out what there is to do. Grab a map and walk around. Find something you’re interested in. Or just take some Instagram worthy pictures, whatever it is. Just leave the hostel or hotel and go for a little walk.
6. And finally, be positive!
Even if you don’t feel it at the time. Tell yourself when you wake up that today will be a good day. Positive thoughts and a positive outlook can really be the way to get through a bad time. 🙂
Just remember that you’re human and everyone is different. If you truly don’t feel like you’re having a good time or that being alone is just too much for you then that’s okay!! Go home, convince a friend to come with you and go back out there!
Or make a friend out here or bring your dog!! Whatever makes you happy.
Just because everyone around you seems to be okay alone. It doesn’t mean you have to be too.